IrBM

Hello Readers, I would need your little attention here to know about IrBM, so what is IrBM? How does it influence society & Men?

 IrBM = Irretrievable Breakdown Of Marriage

 

Basically - until now, there were two ways for a girl to get divorce from her husband:

1) She finds fault in you. If you don't contest, she gets the decree of divorce in her favour. If you contest, she needs to prove her case. Grounds = cruelty, infidelity etc.

2) She talks to you and makes you agree for a mutual consent divorce. Whether you are interested or not, you settle for the divorce to avoid facing Domestic Violence, 498a or 125 maintenance  etc..

If she has already filed those cases, she agrees to drop them or help you get quash [in case of 498a]

If a girl files DVC or 498a senselessly and refuses to settle with you - you could deny her divorce and harass her. This particular strategy helped in settling majority of the DVC and 498a cases - since women are really afraid of getting old. Similarly, if a girl realizes her "mistake" - in the sense that she might not be able to remarry or extort money from you - she would think about coming back after dropping those cases. This made life relatively easily for men after you got Anticipatory Bail for 498a.

 

But, now a woman can get divorced under a new package - if the IrBM bill gets passed. In IrBM, what is required is a separation of 3 years. So - a girl can file 498a and DVC against you and keep extorting money from you. If you don't give her a mutual divorce with LOT of compensation; she will just wait for 3 years - going around in pubs and partying hard.

After 3 years have passed, she can present to court that "I thought that my husband will realize my mistake and take me back. But he has no sense of regret for his shameful actions. Our marriage has irretrievably broken down." The court will not only give her a decree of divorce but also a hefty compensation which includes share in your fixed, immovable and movable assets; and also including a lump sum that takes into consideration your inheritance or inheritable amount.

What makes IrBM scary is that a girl who filed false cases before is punished by denial of divorce and denial of extortion money right now - but after IrBM, a girl who files false cases against husband is rewarded not only with a divorce but also with a hefty share in your assets and salary etc..

 Why would anyone take a job which is going to be "temporary for life" and terminable one sided?

=> Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your     relationships.

=> Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.

=> Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.

 

 

 

Unequal Laws

We talk about equal rights, equal respect, equal balance in society etc. However this is very strange and weird that we never ever think about gender equal laws. that law, which drive this society, mankind, and make people scared, not to do something illegal or unethical with anyone.

Law stops you from within, that if we don't follow the law, it might put you in jeopardize or risk, however when there is no law to stop women's false allegation or wrong doings so why will they be scared, infact they have complete world in their support. 

 We live in a society where we have male and female, so which clearly means any policy, law or anything should be made in considering both. However that's not the case presently.

Family laws has been made considering only one side story of society which stats female and their issues, I raise one question here, TAALI AK HATH SE NAHI BAJTI HAI?. I am sure there would have been something which female would also have done wrong, a threat, provoke, or abuse or even slap etc.

We have crime against women cell, women associations, women oriented mediation center, women helplines provided by Govt. etc..

 Men also support in society, contribute in country's development, maximum amount of tax comes from them, vital role in the development of child in family, however men has been ignored, as per Menaka Gandhi's statement, All violence originated by Men. You tube link  (https://t.co/cM39IMdVrh)

Did you have ever heard of any men helpline, any Govt. association which helps men? I think the answer is no. Don't they also suffer domestic violence? Answer lies within to every men. 

“Silence becomes cowardice when occasion demands speaking out the whole truth and acting accordingly.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

False Cases by Women, reported by Media

Hi Readers.. Thank you so much for reading my previous blogs.

To all the men here: I am sure what our suffering is something that I cannot even start to imagine, it seems to me that you have to bear the brunt of the law, which is unfair, no doubt about it.

I can't even imagine what suffering a men go through when he faces false case, how does society looks at him, he becomes criminal in the eye of everyone around him, Should we think once that he might be innocent ?
Together we can change this believe that even a girl can do wrong doings

Below are some facts extracted for various sources:

 => 53.2 per cent rape cases filed between April 2013-July 2014 false, says DCW, 1,464 cases were  found to be false.

=> False cruelty cases under Section 498A (498A of Indian Penal Code against innocent in-laws alleging cruelty and harassment at matrimonial homes)  ruining marriages, SC says

 => 98 per cent of all domestic violence cases were found to be baseless and false as per The Hindu.

One of a merchant navy officer. he had invested all his money in his wife's name and bought various plots of land, mutual funds & shares in her name. Now when he was 59 years old and about to retire from service, his wife has shown him the door. he had lost almost everything. he kept all the ornaments in a bank locker with joint name and his wife has removed all the items. Now she has filed a case under domestic violence.

'Man'kind in India is suffering. Time has come for government to amend these laws making them gender neutral or otherwise the married Male population of this country would very soon become an extinct species.

Men Suicides Cases reported by NCRB

Hi Readers, Before I could say anything about law or its misuse, just would need your attention on today's date.

11th Sep or Nine eleven ? This date reminds us something disastrous happened which ruined so many life's and left this world. I am very sad for that moment. Sorrow !!

 Now I would share some facts which are shared by National Crime Records Bureau for 2012, which will be an eye opening records for you.

=> 15 Suicides took place every one hour during the year 2012.

=> More than one lakh persons (1,35,445) in the country lost their lives by committing

     suicide during the year 2012.

=> ‘Family problems’ (25.6%) and ’illness’ (20.8%) have accounted for 46.4% of total

     Suicides in country during the year 2012.

=> The overall male : female ratio of suicide victims for the year 2012 was 65:35

     Nearly 71.6% of the suicide victims were married males

After looking these records, a question comes, what brings someone to end his life? what has happened to anyone that he felt killing himself easy then living? It must be misery, since they are not alive now, however one more question raised here, Can our law not help them to live their live or support them? I think the answer itself is explanatory.

So what is it ? which we can do to prevent or reduce the numbers from the above records, I believe give equal rights to everyone besides their gender, Look always both side of coin before making anyone accused. This may give moral to speak up one's mind.

For more details : http://sffdelhitrainingsessions.blogspot.nl/2014/07/NCRBArneshSupremeCourt.html?m=1