IrBM

Hello Readers, I would need your little attention here to know about IrBM, so what is IrBM? How does it influence society & Men?

 IrBM = Irretrievable Breakdown Of Marriage

 

Basically - until now, there were two ways for a girl to get divorce from her husband:

1) She finds fault in you. If you don't contest, she gets the decree of divorce in her favour. If you contest, she needs to prove her case. Grounds = cruelty, infidelity etc.

2) She talks to you and makes you agree for a mutual consent divorce. Whether you are interested or not, you settle for the divorce to avoid facing Domestic Violence, 498a or 125 maintenance  etc..

If she has already filed those cases, she agrees to drop them or help you get quash [in case of 498a]

If a girl files DVC or 498a senselessly and refuses to settle with you - you could deny her divorce and harass her. This particular strategy helped in settling majority of the DVC and 498a cases - since women are really afraid of getting old. Similarly, if a girl realizes her "mistake" - in the sense that she might not be able to remarry or extort money from you - she would think about coming back after dropping those cases. This made life relatively easily for men after you got Anticipatory Bail for 498a.

 

But, now a woman can get divorced under a new package - if the IrBM bill gets passed. In IrBM, what is required is a separation of 3 years. So - a girl can file 498a and DVC against you and keep extorting money from you. If you don't give her a mutual divorce with LOT of compensation; she will just wait for 3 years - going around in pubs and partying hard.

After 3 years have passed, she can present to court that "I thought that my husband will realize my mistake and take me back. But he has no sense of regret for his shameful actions. Our marriage has irretrievably broken down." The court will not only give her a decree of divorce but also a hefty compensation which includes share in your fixed, immovable and movable assets; and also including a lump sum that takes into consideration your inheritance or inheritable amount.

What makes IrBM scary is that a girl who filed false cases before is punished by denial of divorce and denial of extortion money right now - but after IrBM, a girl who files false cases against husband is rewarded not only with a divorce but also with a hefty share in your assets and salary etc..

 Why would anyone take a job which is going to be "temporary for life" and terminable one sided?

=> Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your     relationships.

=> Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.

=> Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.